self compassion: an introduction

Hello everyone! 

 

Today, I want to talk about self-compassion. Usually, we tend to show compassion more towards others and not ourselves. Our inner critical voice doesn’t allow this. But, this can be changeable. It is found that showing self-compassion towards ourselves as well as doing compassion meditations help us to soften our inner critical voice into a softer, loving, nurturing one. So, how we can achieve this?

I will be sharing some tips on practicing self-compassion in everyday life. 

 

 

Just want to say that self-compassion doesn’t mean belittling yourself nor being selfish. It simply means that still showing yourself compassion even if you just woke up and made your bed that day. It means turning the inner critical voice into a more compassionate one. 

 

 

Individuals who are more self-compassionate have greater happiness, overall satisfaction with life, motivation in life, better relationships with others, overall good health. They also have more ”resilience” towards hard things in life.

 

 

Self-compassion really helped me with my grieving process 2.5 years ago. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself in this life. And the gift is already inside yourself, ready to be opened. Ready to be shown in the world.

 

 

The more you show yourself compassion, the more you will show compassion to others. 

 

 

So, I’ll be sharing some tips below that have helped me and hopefully, it’ll help you too! 

 

  1. Ask yourself “ how can I help you?” throughout the day. If you are feeling stressed just asking this to yourself can make the stress go away.
  2. Pat on your back. We give love to everyone yet ourselves. Patting your back when you have done even the easiest task is great to show yourself compassion
  3. Remember that you are not alone. If you are going through a hard time, a grieving process, a break-up, or even a headache remind yourself that there are millions of other people going through the same here at the moment. Show compassion to them too by showing yourself the same compassion.
  4. You are not your faults. Nor your feelings. Or your thoughts. Self-compassion starts at this moment. When you acknowledge that you cannot control everything in life, that’s where radical acceptance comes into the stage. As well as a sense of compassion. Place your hands on your heart. Feel your heart. And whisper yourself that ” I’m doing the best I can possibly can in this moment.”
  5. Learn to rest, not quit. We all need moments where we want to ”reset.” Where we want to just do things that make us happy. This is okay. As human beings, we have the luxury to take a moment and rest. Do something that would relax you today. Drawing, painting, dancing, watching silly Youtube videos. Or just take a nap. Don’t feel guilty about it. Allow yourself to feel whatever you want to feel at a particular moment.
  6. Suffering is a part of life. This is the fact of life. When we show self-compassion towards ourselves during suffering moments, we’ll experience that it will pass more easily. ” May I be kinder to myself in this moment”
 
Feelings are like clouds in the sky, so are thoughts. Yet the sky stays the same. You are the sky. Feelings and thoughts come and go like clouds. Don’t get attached to them.
 

 

 

Before we finish; I’d like to say a little prayer for you;

May I be safe

May I be happy

May I be free from all the worry

May my heart be in peace

 

 

Until next time!

 

xx Penny 

 

 

 

33 responses to “self compassion: an introduction”

  1. I love this post! Being kind to yourself is so important – sending you all the love xx

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  2. “Learn to rest, not quit.” I love this! I'm showing myself compassion this week by resting and not forcing myself and body into things it's not willing to do naturally. This helps as a reminder that it's okay to pause. Thank you for sharing!

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  3. This is so important, especially as we adjust to pandemic life. I’ll definitely be showing myself some compassion moving forward!

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  4. Love this post! I definitely agree that it's important to take rests and acknowledge that there are other people in a similar boat to you. Serena / http://www.ramblingsofanotherunigraduate.com

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  5. What a lovely post. Some of us do tend to be hard on ourselves. 😀

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  6. Thank you so much Della! Yes it is highly important to be kind to ourselves first, lots of love xx

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  7. You are very much welcome! I'm so glad you are listening to yourself and taking a break 🙂 you deserve it!

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  8. Yes Neona! Especially we need to show more compassion towards ourselves during hard times. Thank you for sharing your lovely comment on here 🙂

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  9. Thank you so much Serena! When we show compassion towards ourselves we also show compassion towards others too! 🙂

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  10. Love this! I'm often to hard on myself but it's so important that we are kind xx

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  11. Our inner dialogue is so important (I've written about this too on the Everyday Lifestyle page of my site) and mine has definitely been overly critical or unkind. This was a great reminder to have a reset and work on how I talk to/about myself. Thank you!

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  12. Yes, exactly! I'm happy that you liked it!

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  13. Aww yes we tend to be hard on ourselves without realizing. & thank you so much! xx

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  14. Thank you so much for your lovely comment and you are welcome! I'll be also checking your post too 🙂

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  15. Thank you for sharing this Penny, these are some wonderful tips and especially needed with everything going on in the world at the moment. It's so important to show ourselves some credit, even for the little things!Amy | sassycatlady.com

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  16. Thank you so much for your lovely comment Amy! You are absolutely right, we need to give ourselves credit during these hard times x

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  17. Such wonderful advice! There can be so much hostility out there, made even worse by the fact most of it is directed internally. We're all our own harshest critiques because we care the most about our work, but you're right, that it's important to be kind and compassionate too – thanks for sharing!

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  18. Your idea of self-compassion is such a good idea, as we can overlook ourselves when it comes to compassion. Your tips are amazing, especially number four. You cannot control everything, and that's okay. Number five is a lesson I am still learning. You don't need to be constantly working, and taking a break is perfectly fine as it can help. Thank you for sharing! 😊

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  19. Exactly Tom! Thank you so much for sharing your comment on here! 🙂

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  20. Learning to rest and not quit is such an important life lesson! These are great tips for life! thanks for sharingKatie | katieemmabeauty.com

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  21. This is such an important post! Sometimes we neglect ourselves and what we truly want and need. It’s good to take time out to give ourselves some love x

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  22. You are very much welcome! Yes we are allowed to take breaks, and that's totally fine! Always keep it in mind 🙂

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  23. I love the post Penny! Such an important message, I think self-care is so essential and is something that a lot of us forget about! I’ll definitely be taking more time for self-compassion this year! Thanks so for sharing xx

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  24. You are welcome Katie! Thanks for your lovely comment x

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  25. Exactly! We have to show ourselves love first before we can show it to someone else right? Thank you for your lovely comment x

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  26. You are very much welcome Rachel! I'm happy to hear that 🙂 Thank you for your sweet comment, too! xx

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  27. I love this! I’m so guilty of being hard on myself, need to remember these tips x

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  28. I love this! I’m so guilty of being hard on myself, need to remember these tips x

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  29. I'm so glad that you loved this Lauren! Yes, hope you can remember these tips in your daily life x Thank you for your lovely comment x

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  30. I love this post, self compassion is so important. I've been guilty of not resting and just wanting to quit. I changed that to taking a relaxing day to clear my mind before start back with what I was doing. These were all great tips, great post xx

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  31. Thank you so much for your lovely comment on here Anissa. Hope you can learn how to start showing self compassion towards yourself too xx

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  32. I absolutely loved this. Usually, I am far too hard on myself than I am to anyone else. This has actually caused me several anxiety crises. Your tips are to the point and is a perfect guide to self-compassion. Thank you!

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    1. You are very welcome. I really hope and wish that you will continue to show more self-compassion towards yourself. Remember, that you are your own best friend. Thank you for your lovely comment x Penny

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